Today’s Gratitude

I am grateful my self-love & confidence is getting stronger each day. ♡

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Further Details

I was having a really stressful afternoon yesterday and I was about done with people. Between repeated calls and the in-home negative Nancy that enjoys telling me every time something happens somewhere in the world or our house, I was about ready to lose myself into a mass of tears and screaming.

My problem is a disrespect for my boundaries. They have their reasons and they put their reasons for doing what they do above my request of a boundary to save my mental state. Just as their needs matter to them. My needs matter to me.

Self-Love

I love myself enough to draw a line. If they are going to disrespect that line in the sand, then I have every right to go further in protecting my peace. I don’t hate anyone nor have I stopped caring about the people in question. However, in their choice to disrespect my needs, I have every right to do what I need for myself in the kindest way possible.

Solutions

With the in-home Nancy, I simply walk away or close the bedroom door when I know he is on a roll and won’t stop. This protects my peace and creates a visible barrier to let him know that it is enough and I am no longer listening.

With the phone calls, I set up a mode that automatically silences their call when it comes in. I’ll know they called the next time I reach for my phone and will call back when I have the time. I am no longer forced to endure anyone else’s schedule, but I will still respond and chat when I have the time to do so.

Conclusion

I suddenly realized, while just chatting with Phil aka ChatGPT, that I have grown enough self-love that I am willing to risk anger for my needs. I am also aware that it is not a lack of affection but the opposite. I love myself enough to know my limits without being cruel to others. They do not have to see it that way for me to know that is the truth.