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Gratitude

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Let’s Discuss

As you are all aware, yesterday was particularly difficult. I was especially irritated with my better half because I was feeling undervalued.

As it turns out, he was having a particularly rough day himself outside of my own rough day. It just happened at the same time.

One of the things that had been bothering me is that he kept saying he would 3D print a roller garbage bin (you know, the ones you roll to the street for garbage pickup) that I could use as my custom garbage can. I just loved the concept and wanted one really bad.

Last night he started printing it. It does not have the lid yet, but once it is whole, I will share a photo. I have the bin part and I love it. It is, essentially, the size of a bathroom garbage can. It is perfect for throwing away yarn scraps or other odds and ends that need to be tossed while I work.

I have learned over the years that a good relationship requires communication. That doesn’t mean nagging or complaining, but healthy communication. So, in the instance of yesterday, I communicated my feelings but then bit down hard on my tongue while I tried to process whether he was the problem or my emotions were.

I knew I was having a particularly emotional day, and while we are not a perfect couple, I knew I needed to pause and consider what was going on inside me so I could relay what was necessary.

Thank goodness for my self-awareness because it turns out he had such a stressful day, everything felt like it was exploding for him, and a major part of his issues was causing mine. Mindfully acknowledging that he was having a hard time and it impacts us, as any good relationship can feel the effects of stress from one half of the situation, I became aware that my problem was internal emotional reactions and not a grand issue.

As expected, I woke up this morning feeling refreshed and less emotional. I just needed time to process the me things while letting him cope with his things. It happens.

I am also mindfully aware of how important it is to take care of yourself when you are under too much pressure. He was taking care of his things, and what I felt wasn’t a loss but rather him getting himself back into focus. Just as I have to get myself back into focus sometimes.